Recently, I asked my partner to talk about having sex soon. We each talked about what worked for us, and our desires to do so. It was awkward and hard to start the conversation as it always is for me, because of my religious family, but it was sooo worth it. It doesn’t mean we actually will have sex for sure, but it means we’re both clear on wanting to and we will each feel more comfortable with saying no if it’s not a good time. And there’s stuff to explore.